Friendships and Relationships

Camp As A Role Model–

Published on by Kathy Baker

Melissa Plambeck’s camp experiences in the seventies influenced her entire life. Her husband attended camp, so when they met they knew the same songs. When her children came along, she wanted them to enjoy the same experiences she loved at camp, so she and her husband worked for a camp and their kids went to Camp Daggett. All three ended up as counselors and one worked as an assistant director for another camp. The family sometimes rented cottages on lakes and one child even requested “Hobo Dinners” for her birthday one year! The family still canoes to this day.

“It was a good thing—camp. I was never afraid to go places by myself, to travel alone and meet new people. Living with eight to ten girls I didn’t know, well—I made it work and I learned to appreciate different people and different personalities. It broadened my perspective, even for people I did not like.”

“I think Maqua contributed to my character,” said sixties camper Laurie Cone, pictured with her husband.  “It demonstrated friendships, loyalty, and camaraderie. You can view the results just from the Camp Maqua Alumni site. They were treasured times. I cannot tell you how many times I have had moments where I remembered my camping experiences. It was rustic, not fancy. We took baths and shaved our legs at the lake. We skinny-dipped. It was a simple place but had a whole range of activities from crafts to nature classes. Why we learned to dissect a frog there long before I ever did in Biology class!”

“My husband and son both hated camp and I wanted them to have the same kinds of experiences I had, but they did not,” said Laurie sadly.  Laurie just retired from her career as co-owner and former President of the Board of Directors of Mapleview Consultation Center in Michigan.

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Camp As A Courage Builder–

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Meeting new friends from diverse states and countries, other religions, different ethnicities plus the great canoe trips and hanging with staff members helped Sarah Smith’s (1968-70) independent formation. Sarah is the development director for the Center for Women and Families in  Connecticut and works with domestic assault and crisis cases.

“For me camp gave me a wonderful sense of independence, just being part of a group and being able to express myself as a person,” said forties camper Suzanne Ruterbusch. “Many kids never got that chance and working there was just an extension of that independence. I have always been a huge lover of being in the woods. My first husband and I built a cabin in the woods in Grayling on the AuSable and before that, we took the kids camping in a trailer. I always felt closest to God when I was in the woods and it started at Maqua.”

The independence she gained at camp was the direct result of her days at Maqua (and other camps later), which gave Andrea Gale, pictured left, (1970+) the confidence to travel by herself. “My stepfather ended up working in Saudi Arabia and I went to a boarding school in northern California. I flew there by myself for three weeks, traveling for two days to get there with no fear. Later I went on trips by myself just to explore. Camp gave me the courage to do things in life.”

Kerry Weber also traveled post camping years in the fifties. “I think it was easy for me to go off to college. Attending camp at an early age allowed me to become very independent. I traveled to Europe at aged sixteen and six of us from Bay City also went to Finland and met up in Amsterdam. I summered one year with a family in Virginia, and I attended Sweetbriar Women’s College there.  I truly loved going to Camp Maqua.”

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Camp Developed Independence–

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Independence—we all long for that feeling that we can do it on our own. Camp was the perfect place to try out new activities, learn new skills, and to leave home and enter a safe, nurturing environment.

“I wasn’t a girlie girl,” said seventies camper Helen McLogan,” and I was a rule-follower. I think going to camp made me much more independent. I was afraid to go at first and was unwilling to branch out of my comfortable world, but I have a strong memory of loving to master the skills and levels at camp. And when I worked in the kitchen, it was good for me. I think I was hysterical at the closing ceremony that first summer, even though I had not wanted to go to camp. Two weeks up there was just perfect for me.”

“I think Camp Maqua was a classic camp and the responsibilities helped build my character. When I send my kids to camp, I want them to go to the kind without air conditioning, with mosquitoes, and I want them to enjoy rustic camping. There was a very different tone to the camp when the boys were there. I was a little sentimental about just having all girls.”

 Mary Beth Morton (1974-75) was off to General Motors Institute when she graduated. “I paid my own way and I was very independent. That experience at camp, I would have to say, helped me to become myself. At home, I just did not make waves, but I was biding my time. Somehow I had the insight to know I did not have to live like that. I became an engineer in the auto industry, which gave me a lot of security. Camp taught me that I was accepted and well regarded. It was an eye-opening time and it allowed me to become more confident.”

For fifties girl Jan Bateson (pictured above at the 2016 reunion with Marsha Immerman), camp gave her a sense of leaving home, but able to return with virtually nothing changed. “I found independence, bravery, and courage. It definitely influenced me. It reinforced my love of being outside with space to roam. To not know anybody at camp and to be okay, to be connected to other girls from other groups and different places after coming from the mostly Polish-German town of Salzburg was wonderful. I had never had a conversation with so many girls!”

Her love of camp also influenced her family and life. Jan’s family camped and canoed in Canada, she ran a Girl Scout troop, sent her daughters to Girl Scout camp, as well as becoming involved with kids in crisis in another camp.

“The whole experience solidified my values, “ said Nancy Neumyer (1975-78)- “I was a person of great faith and I place great value on family and children. It helped me to become a better Mom. I loved being surrounded by like-minded girls, which reinforced my values. It gave me a sense of independence. I enjoyed that time and was not easily homesick. I did have a summer with my sister there, but she was in a neighboring cabin, and there were always returnees. It was such a welcoming and nurturing place. It was a way for me to have something of my own since I was one of nine kids. I didn’t have to compete and the experience allowed me to be me. I was never jealous or competitive. There is a joke in my family that I raised myself.”

“I think camp helped me become more independent, “ said Debbie Hawkins, who camped in the sixties. “It was the first time away without my parents, except for nights at friend’s homes. I realized I could live by myself without my parents, and at that time it was a long time for a young person to be away. I just remember the deepness of the friendships I made at camp. I also remember my counselors Beanie and Frenchie. Beanie was funny as all get out.”

Sue West, back row in the middle, is seen below with her siblings at a family reunion in Maqua last summer and was a  counselor in Primitive camping. Her brother Bill West (second from left) owns the home directly to the right of the campfire pit. She was the second youngest of eight kids and started at Camp Maqua in 1975. Her Mom had died two years earlier and she had gone to live with some of her siblings at aged seventeen. “Camp impacted my character. It made me stronger, more independent. I was always amazed that I got the job. I always knew I wanted to be a Home Ec. teacher because I loved working with kids. I knew it from this experience. I grew up camping and would summer in Canada with cousins and with five kids between my husband and me–we have camped, backpacked and hiked because we love the outdoors.”

 

 

 

Camp Strengthened Young Women–

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Ask Cindy Knapp, shown above, (1968-71)— there was no question that her time at Maqua influenced who she was as a person.  ‘I loved my summers there, treasure the memories and friendships that were formed, and am grateful to have had the opportunity. Maqua helped give me confidence and taught me a lot about leadership.  I had always wanted to be a teacher and I know some of that desire is from the modeling of teaching that I watched at Maqua.  We learned to be friendly, kind, loyal, curious, confident, respectful, responsible, trustworthy, fair, and strong.  That’s pretty good character building, if you ask me.”

“I became a teacher and there is no question that my camp experiences have influenced my career.  When I taught sixth grade for several years, it was a tradition to go to a nearby Y camp for three days.  I recreated a lot of the program, using my Maqua experience as a model.  (Prior to that, it was kind of just school in a different place and I was having none of that!). I always sang the old songs with my kids.   I have been teaching preschool for the last 12 years and the Maqua songs are especially fun with them!”

Tally Cone (1960-65) became a teacher and had always wanted to teach the younger kids, but after her Mastes degree, she taught math to middle school kids. “Maybe, I ended up being drawn to the age that I actually was at camp. I love middle school kids. One day, they are wanting a sticker on their work, and the next they are crying over a break-up of a boyfriend or girlfriend.”

She and her husband retired early, after raising two daughters. Both girls went to camp, but they never camped as a family. Instead, as teachers, they were able to take the summers off and visit the U.S. “Now when I see a birch tree or even smell “S’Mores” or a campfire, I think of Camp Maqua.”

Carol  Wahl used her camp counseling experience for years on her resume, until her resume filled up with the many jobs she had. Many of her years have been spent in education as a science teacher for adjudicated teens. “I use the lab as hands-on for the kids as much as possible, and many have returned to say it was their favorite class. When I was at camp and saw the bad behaviors in the girls, I made sure I taught mine better. Camp was a wonderful experience for campers and counselors. I still have rocks from camp painted with “Camp Maqua 1974” and a piece of driftwood somewhere.”

“When I think of camp, I think of home,” said Sharon Williams, a counselor in the seventies. “It was my summer home. We were just a group of people working together having a great time. We were open and accepting of each other. You came into your own at eighteen and nineteen and there were many changes and time to develop. Those times really helped to shape and reaffirm my career choice in physical education. My first job in teaching was junior high level in Plymouth Middle School.”

Pat  O’Tool l (1944-52) loved arts and crafts and went on to become an art teacher, convinced that the arts she learned to enjoy at camp influenced her career choice. “The leadership and supervision and forever directing something as a kid influenced me to teach, To this day, she still teaches art and still remembers the postcard from Camp Maqua featuring the girls in front of the craft hut.”

When Sue Michelson (1963-73) was not at camp, she was babysitting or volunteering with children at home—always involved in the community in some way. Her camping days and love of children helped to make the career choice of becoming a K-12 principal. As a teacher, responsible for children and talking to parents, her roots with writing reports as a camp director gave her great experience.“Camp Maqua was so influential in my life“ Part of the reason I went to Michigan State was due to many of my counselor friends going there. Half of us went to Michigan and the other half to Western. It was more than a summer experience. It was a huge part of my life. I had always wanted to be a teacher, and I looked up to those counselors.

Others were influenced to attend a certain college, Betsy Falvey, (1968-75) said, “I do feel like camp influenced my choice of college. I chose a small college and I was active in my sorority and my major was history, but my minor was in music. Everyone was singing and playing guitars at camp, including me, so I was in a band in college. I think I am the only one I know with a liberal arts degree that has made it work in my life.”

“I think camp guided me into teaching,” said Carolyn Stanton (below) (1947+). “ I was a waitress at Camp Sherwood and Huntingdon later, so I liked camps. I ended up as a reading specialist and got my Masters in the eighties. I had good values already, but camp strengthened them.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Camp Shaped Lives–

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Priscilla Johns, (above) (1968+) loved all the activities at camp—the arts and crafts, the horseback riding and nature. “I remember the first summer as I got on my horse and walked through the woods, I thought I would rather be galloping,” she said. “I learned to pick up a snake and not be afraid, even after the little garter snake bit me. I can still build a great fire from learning at camp and I know the girls used to say, call Cilla because she will get the fire started right away. And to swim in a lake or jump of the dock is simply amazing,” said Cilla. “There is nothing like a Michigan summer. Hot during the day, but you could swim and then throw on a sweatshirt and jeans at night. Ah—the fresh air! I think this is why I got into dentistry with children. I work a lot with special needs patients and I was drawn to it from my Maqua days. I always loved being silly, so I threw myself into a profession that would accommodate my personality!”

“I loved the campfires and the friendship circles and the bonding with others. Just being in nature and yet having a routine was great,”  said Laya Rose (1937-48)  “ I came from a home where my parents both worked and I was on my own a great deal. I realized that everyone needed something and everyone brought a gift to camp. My needs were met there. I think my gift was listening to others with kindness and connecting to people. I had enthusiasm for living and camping—maybe because I am not a low-key type of person. I was a people person then and I am still a people person now.”

Jenifer Penzien (1969-71) recalled the movie “The Parent Trap”, starring Hailey Mills as twins separated who find each other at camp, which aired around the time she thought about going to camp. She attributed her camping experiences for her love of horseback riding, canoeing, and kayaking—all of which she continues to do to this day.

Sue Robson’s career as a “User Experience Counselor” with web page design involves observing people using software and she feels as if her observer tendencies as a child have come in handy with her work. She also volunteers at an art center and it always reminds her of the arts and crafts of her camp days in the seventies. Barb Ballor expressed how camp fostered kindness to others, which encouraged her into the nurturing profession of nursing, as well as to send her boys to camp.

Sometimes, it was just the little things that camp taught the girls that meant the most.  For Karen Kaiser (1959-62), it was simply music, campfires, the ceremonies and “ the chance to become who we were” and for Judy Kessler, her love for the outdoors began at camp in 1946 and it was always just a magical place.

Three women, Kathy Butsch (1968-74), Randi Wynne-Parry (1969-73) and Beth Taylor (1966+) were influenced to become involved with the Girl Scouts, either as a leader or member of a troop. All three drew on their experiences at camp and to this day they all enjoy the outdoors.

For Sue Purdue(1964-68), shown on the right of this photo with fellow staff member Anne Pennington, the realization of how important the camp experience did not occur until she was older.“Who knew they would be such formative years. We had instincts and urgings of vulnerability but since it was a girl’s camp, it was instrumental in my self-esteem.  I believed in myself and I felt like I could do anything. I felt like I could speak my mind. Camp was a culmination and a big part of who I am. I always knew I wanted to work with kids after that and earned a Masters degree in guidance and counseling after my undergrad degree in physical education. I believe I came into my own and look back at the fact that I was in charge of such young kids at a young age, but Dorthe did a great job as a director with seriousness and responsibility. We had fun, we made a few bad decisions, but we were all searching for acceptance and now look………all the close friendships are being re-consummated!”

 

 

 

Camp Influenced Many Lives—

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With so many girls gaining many experiences, each unique to their personalities, their home life, their own skills and interest, it is not surprising how many different answers came to the question, “How did Camp Maqua influence your life?”

Jan Schrieber (left)(1962-70), now a Psychologist in San Francisco, was the creator of the Camp Maqua Alumni page on Facebook in 2010, following the death of her mother. She was extremely close to her Mom, who she described as creative, funny and truly wonderful. “I started thinking about the things that made ME! How much of life has passed now and that was just a nugget of experience, but I stayed connected to many of those girls.”

What began as a page with about six members has grown to 250 members in the eight-year period and has been a tremendous networking forum for those who treasured their times at camp. It has also been a feeder platform for obtaining the history for the book “Camp Maqua” and the blogs on www.girlsofcampmaqua.com

“I’m an oncology nurse now and manage a research department,” said Debi Gottlieb (!968+). “I cannot imagine that going to camp did not affect me in my life. It was a place where girls could be themselves and get to know other girls without their parents,  and the usual rules. It was just a fun place to be!”

Camp transported Nancy Weber away from home in the sixties and influenced her future career. “I was the youngest child of older parents. By the time I was ten, my brother was in high school and my sister was in college. I look back and realize camp made me comfortable with my eccentricities. You can take me anywhere and I fit in. Whether it is camping, raising coonhounds, or with the gentry, I cherish that I can fit in.  It didn’t show up at camp but did later—my comfort with myself. And fifty years later, I can still fold a flag perfectly!”

“I have memories of my sister’s time at camp, and I knew all the songs before I went to camp, but it was a different time and a different experience. I have a degree in teaching and counseling and I am now a public speaker, but I sang songs to my kids when I was teaching that made me a hit.”

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